Tuesday, 20 January 2015

Questions about having twins

Pregnant women and anyone with babies or toddlers are public property - or at least you would think so considering how intrusive people are when you fall into one of these categories.

It's like we are wearing a T-Shirt shouting "Sure, go ahead and touch my tummy, I don't know you AT ALL but that's OK" or "I'd love nothing more than to answer your incredibly nosey and personal questions about my life and my children, I've got nothing better to do!"

It's truly amazing how some people take the whole 'freedom of speech' thing too far when looking at your personal life. We've all been on the receiving end - and as hard as it is to admit, we've probably been the ones to dish it out too.

So let's get to it. These have to be some of the most obvious and ridiculous questions I have been asked about my twins, mainly by complete strangers but some by people I know (don't worry, I won't name and shame)....

"Wow, twins! Was that a shock then?" Oh no, I plan everything. Everything goes according to my plans... Of course it was a shock! Are you kidding me?! This is usually followed by the "Are there twins in your family?" question.  A simple Yes or No is sadly not enough to satisfy their need for answers.

"So were they natural?" I'm sorry, natural what? "Did you have IVF?" Did you really just ask me that? Surely that's a bit on the personal side, and why does it matter anyway? But for some bizarre reason I feel the need to explain that no, I did not have IVF - why am I even answering this person?

"Are they identical?" They're a BOY and a GIRL. How on earth could they be identical? This one always amazes me. I don't think I could explain the difference between identical and non-identical twins one more time, even if you paid me.

"Wow, you have your hands full! How do you manage?!" Part inquisitive, part pitying, part in awe (I hope). You think? Oh, it's easy breezy with three kids in the space of two years. I spend most of my time with my feet up and a cup of tea, watching daytime TV.

Now that they are a bit bigger, the attention is less frequent, or maybe I am just in a permanent state of sprinting in three directions and no one can pin me down for a chat. I still get the odd, inquisitive soul who just can't help themselves though, but I kind of welcome twin attention now. Maybe it's a case of absence makes the heart grown fonder?!

Twins or not, do you have any to add to this list?


  1. Love this post! I have to admit twins are fascinating! I am always looking for the resemblance in
    non-identical seems so impossible for them not to look alike. They're so beautiful!! X

  2. Hahaha!! Are they natural - what is that question about?! Ridiculous. People really are weird! Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo :) x

  3. Are they identical? Haha I love that! How about ...Take a look!!!

    Natural? ...I can't believe it! It's not like you gave birth to quintuplets (...5 babies, and yes, I had to look that up)!

  4. Exactly the same questions I continually receive and received with my fraternal twins!!! I stopped people asking me if they were 'natural' or not by now always replying to their previous question that yes there are twins galore on my mum's side for generations. And it still bewilders me when I'm asked if they're identical. I finally just tell people I'm lucky as my two mean double joy.


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